COMMITMENT IN MARRIAGE
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“How do you make a marriage work in the long haul?”
Some others have commented, “This spouse that I am married to is incredibly different from what I expected, and it is getting tougher and tougher each day.”
How do we go about having a sustainable marriage before God? I believe we definitely need God and a healthy and increasing dose of committed love in one’s marriage.
The season of cherishing committed love is always worth the work and the perseverance. Commitment does not sound romantic on the surface, but it is absolutely essential for marriage. Genuine romance is impossible without solid commitment in marriage. Remember friends, there is no perfect marriage on earth as we are imperfect people, but with God’s help, we work towards a good and loving marriage.
Commitment begins at the wedding with our vows and pledges to each other and to God.
Nonetheless, there will be occasions when we are faced with disappointments. It is in those times that we have to decide again to live by those vows made at the wedding. Choosing to be committed towards one’s marriage is not a one-time decision, but rather a daily resolution to stand by our vows made before God on that wonderful day called “Wedding”.
It will be reasonably realistic to possibly experience disappointments between spouses and with the state of one’s marriage.
Difficulties will come, responsibilities will grow, children may occasionally challenge and temptations of escape may float time after time. What is it that will help married couples have hope in the midst of all these myriad of issues? One way to make the marriage and romance last: A renewable commitment to one another (between spouses) that has no escape clauses and hopes only in God and not in each other.
Commitment creates a wall of protection around your marriage.
It creates a safe place for a husband and a wife to be real with each other without the fear of rejection. It protects your marriage from outside intruders, and it also creates that security that allows you to discover love and romance in fresh ways and with deeper levels of intimacy and joy.
As each couple remains committed in their marriage, it gives the marriage a renewable resource in that marriage.
It is not the “I’m kind of stuck” in this marriage kind of thing. Even trees take years to grow into maturity, and as they mature, they provide shade, rest and nourishment for people and animals. With good depth of soil and water, the tree’s roots grow deeper and provide sustainability for future inevitable storms.
Commitment in marriage is like the growing root system of an oak tree. It does take time for the marriage roots to grow deep and strong. Unfortunately, too many couples uproot their love in the early stages of the marriage relationship. They lose out on the privilege of experiencing the beauty of a mature forest of long term marital love.
Friends, may I encourage you to build you marriage upon the Chief cornerstone, Jesus Christ and the truly cultivate the attitude and act of cherishing committed love towards one another as spouses.
The Bible reminds us in Ephesians 5:22 – 25 (NIV) 22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Three keys to build commitment into your marriage:
Praying for and with you,
The season of cherishing committed love is always worth the work and the perseverance. Commitment does not sound romantic on the surface, but it is absolutely essential for marriage. Genuine romance is impossible without solid commitment in marriage. Remember friends, there is no perfect marriage on earth as we are imperfect people, but with God’s help, we work towards a good and loving marriage.
Commitment begins at the wedding with our vows and pledges to each other and to God.
Nonetheless, there will be occasions when we are faced with disappointments. It is in those times that we have to decide again to live by those vows made at the wedding. Choosing to be committed towards one’s marriage is not a one-time decision, but rather a daily resolution to stand by our vows made before God on that wonderful day called “Wedding”.
It will be reasonably realistic to possibly experience disappointments between spouses and with the state of one’s marriage.
Difficulties will come, responsibilities will grow, children may occasionally challenge and temptations of escape may float time after time. What is it that will help married couples have hope in the midst of all these myriad of issues? One way to make the marriage and romance last: A renewable commitment to one another (between spouses) that has no escape clauses and hopes only in God and not in each other.
Commitment creates a wall of protection around your marriage.
It creates a safe place for a husband and a wife to be real with each other without the fear of rejection. It protects your marriage from outside intruders, and it also creates that security that allows you to discover love and romance in fresh ways and with deeper levels of intimacy and joy.
As each couple remains committed in their marriage, it gives the marriage a renewable resource in that marriage.
It is not the “I’m kind of stuck” in this marriage kind of thing. Even trees take years to grow into maturity, and as they mature, they provide shade, rest and nourishment for people and animals. With good depth of soil and water, the tree’s roots grow deeper and provide sustainability for future inevitable storms.
Commitment in marriage is like the growing root system of an oak tree. It does take time for the marriage roots to grow deep and strong. Unfortunately, too many couples uproot their love in the early stages of the marriage relationship. They lose out on the privilege of experiencing the beauty of a mature forest of long term marital love.
Friends, may I encourage you to build you marriage upon the Chief cornerstone, Jesus Christ and the truly cultivate the attitude and act of cherishing committed love towards one another as spouses.
The Bible reminds us in Ephesians 5:22 – 25 (NIV) 22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Three keys to build commitment into your marriage:
- Let us remain committed to the Lord and entrust each and every aspect of our lives to the Lord. Commitment to God is to be cultivated on a daily basis. I encourage you to abide in our God and honour Him first. By doing so, we are sowing godly values into our marriage. God’s Word should be the yardstick of our lives; including our marriage. God’s Word is clear about the sanctity of marriage. When we seek to honour and obey God’s Word, it also means we are to build our marriage based upon His powerful and eternal Word. Always seek to place the Lord Jesus Christ at the centre point of your marriage. After all, Jesus is the chief cornerstone.
- Let us build deep biblical convictions in our lives. Marriage is for life and it is to be honoured before God and all. Even though the trends in society are not pointing towards the ways of God, we are called to be different. Let us be convicted in God to be true and to honour the spouse whom God has brought into our lives. One of the best and effective ways to grow in our personal commitment to our spouse is to pray for our spouse each day. God can do more than we can. He moves in miraculous ways to unite both husband and wife together. Make a commitment to love our spouse (in heart and in practice) like the way God loves us. 1 Corinthians 13 is an excellent starting point!
- Let us be committed to work through issues with our spouse. Life is a myriad of matters. Commitment in marriage grows as mature godly love is cultivated in each day of our married life. Sweeping issues under the carpet and not attending to them will not help one’s marriage. Even for those of us who are active in ministry or/and at work, let us not be too busy to attend to marriage matters. Remember Song of Songs 2:15: it says the little foxes spoil the vine. I encourage you to work matters together. Seek to share deeply, to trust, to understand (even the different seasons you and your spouse are going through), to make adjustments and above all to ask the Lord for His divine help at all times.
Praying for and with you,
